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We almost watched a man die

1 Dec

May 30, 2015

Today was an extreme outing.  On one hand, Hunter let me know what he really thinks of the Big Brother Big Sister of Mass Bay Organization (he wrote in chalk “Big Brother #1”).  On the other hand, as we were walking home, we witnessed a horrible accident as a wooden beam fell 4 stories and hit a worker (who was not wearing a hard-hat) directly on the head.  The man instantly crumpled, and blood pooled in the gutter.

Freedom Trail Part II:

The outing started out fantastically.  We picked up the Freedom Trail where we left off the week before.  We walked through Charlestown, saw the USS Constitution, and then back to Park St.  During lunch, while eating some pb&j in a Charlestown park, I saw some chalk on the ground, so naturally, I wrote something on the sidewalk: “Boston # 1” (having grown up in Boston city, I have pride).  Hunter, always polite, asked if he could write something himself.  After my approval, he went about writing his message: ”Big Brother # 1”.

That was nice to read.  It certainly made me smile.  He smiled one of his very wide grins.  It was a really nice moment.

 

Allen Arseneau & Hunter

Allen Arseneau and Little Brother Hunter, USS Constitution

 

We then made it to the USS Constitution, where we saw an actual human jawbone fragment that was taken from an unfortunate British sailor that mistakenly engaged the USS Constitution in battle.  Poor guy.

A man almost died in front of us:

At this point, we started walking back to Park Street, where I was parked.  Hunter was tired, and it was getting late.  As we were walking, we saw the accident.  I immediately ran over to a police office who hadn’t seen the accident, and was engaged in a conversation – a mere 10 feet from the guy, who now lay unconscious, bleeding profusely from his head.  I screamed at the officer to come over.  He realized what was happening, and called for help.

I had taken multiple first-responder courses years ago (back when I thought I wanted to be an Army Medic or a volunteer EMT), so my instinct was to go over and help the guy.  Although I am not a first-responder, I could at least help stop the bleeding.  However, during that split second, I had to decide what to do: help the guy, or get Hunter out of there.  We were 1 mile from Mass General Hospital – one of the best hospitals in the country.  So, I figured real help would be here in a minute or so, and this guy would be at MGH shortly thereafter.  I also saw several workers and the police officer go over to the guy.  So, I decided instead to get Hunter out of there, before he saw too much gore.  Afterall, there was literally blood pooling in the gutter.  By the time we walked to the corner, I saw the worker sitting up with the help of some of the other workers.  I think he is going to be ok.

Lemons into Lemonade:

This created a really good opportunity to talk to Hunter about the need for certain rules, especially safety rules.  We talked about the importance wearing a hardhat, of wearing your seatbelt, and of generally following rules that are meant to keep you safe.

I let Hunter know that the worker would be ok, and that he was lucky.  After about 5 minutes, we were on to a new topic (I think Hunter was already asking me if he could play at the park).  I let his grandma know what happened, in case he wanted to talk about it further.  Last I heard, it did not come up again.

The lesson for me: if you are standing below a palette of wood dangling 50 feet above your head, wear a darn hard hat.

The Little becomes the Big

23 Nov

We’ve all heard the phrase “the student becomes the master”.  Some of us have even seen it play out with characters such as Luke Skywalker or Neo (aka Mr. Anderson).  In my case, the Little becomes the Big.  The Big Brother, that is.

When I was 9 years old, I became a Little Brother.  27 years later, I have become a mentor myself to a young boy, through Big Brothers Big Sisters of Mass Bay.  It has been an amazingly rewarding experience, and I would urge anyone who is looking for more meaning in life to do the same.  It is easy and fun.

I have started a blog to capture some of my experiences as a Big.  Please do follow our adventures.

www.BostonBig.com

 

The role of mentors

3 Mar

A great way to excel in your career is to find a mentor who can help guide you through decisions, can act as a sounding board, and can open new doors for you.

Mentors can also be used to help you find professional happiness, personal happiness, and to open your eyes to different alternatives that you may not have considered before.

The best mentors are those that have developed organically.  Look around for people who you look up to.  Ideally, they are 5-20 years your senior, and are in a place in which you would like to be one day.  Once you have identified this person, let the organic growth begin.  Invite them out for a 15-30 minute coffee, or phone call.  And then do this every 3-6 months.  Be sure to express your appreciation, and follow up with a small gift or hand-written note.

And remember, in 5-10 years, when someone invites you to a coffee…say “yes”.